Multiple, including but not limited to his failure to abide the Lord's will for the union, marriage vows, alcohol abuse, dishonesty, emotional abuse, financial destruction, adultery, abiding sense of malaise, cynicism and lack of gratitude for his many blessings.
    Introduced by a mutual friend in 1983, His bride was swept away by his masculinity, gentlemanly manners and chivalry. The bride to be was enthralled by crystal blue eyes, fair hair and uncanny physical strength. The solid family from which he came provided hope that their life could be sound, secure and steadfast, unlike the home from which she came. The groom enjoyed playing the Knight in Shining Armor to the Damsel in Distress.
    In early 1983, a mutual friend introduced them on the phone. He fell in love with her southern accent and asked if they could meet sometime soon. A month later, the friend had a get-together at his home and invited her. He opened doors, served snacks and cocktails like a renaissance man. She told her friend later that night that they would marry.
    Incredible sense of humor, gentlemanly manners, generosity, gifts of roses, jewels and cars for no particular reason, bravery, unusual Irish looks, protectiveness, love of classical rock and roll, long-time childhood friendships that endure to this day.
    Inside jokes, trips around the world, secret nicknames, family traditions and annual holiday gatherings, caroling, always using the Waterford for bubbles, uproarious laughter, opening gifts from his father at Christmas.........surprise puppies, kittens and trinkets all the year through... The spot in the bed that was warm and filled.
    Refusal to attend church and participate in the fellowship as promised when engaged; drunkenness to the point of sickness and blackouts which rendered him unable to be a real husband for the last two years of the ill-fated union...Lies.
    The groom has "died" to this bride. He was kind enough to inform her mother that he had found a new wife that is also, "quite beautiful". We shall never meet again on this Earth. The bride's life will thrive and prosper in the path intended by her Creator. New and greater love is already hers.
    Family of the groom failed to acknowledge the bride's existence or express any sorrow, concern or grief regarding the end of the union, precipitated suddenly and without warning by the groom's abandonment of a very sick wife as she lay in the hospital in agony. Former friends of the couple dropped off the face of the Earth following the sudden departure of the groom. The bride, to them ceased to exist. The bride has referred to this time period respectfully as her own September 11th - She lost at least 200 relatives and dear friends upon the groom's sudden departure. In the end, it all came down to money. The Love, long sustained by artificial means, died a slow, excruciatingly painful death. May it rest in peace on a distant star.
    Mother and siblings of the groom,a.k.a. "The Divorce Coaches", neices, nephews, cousins, aunts, uncles and Godparents and beloved friends, too numerous to count. The bride survives, along with both her parents, step-parents, siblings, neice, brother in laws and youngest sister, whom the groom assisted in raising, who now expects her first child in December. The bride is in love "for the first time" again.
    Groom to Bride: I will never get married again.Bride to Groom: Is your mom still calling her my name?